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Celebrating Milestones

In the world of sobriety, every day counts—but some days deserve extra recognition.Whether you're newly sober or years into recovery, marking milestones like 30 days, 6 months, or one year alcohol-free isn't just a nice tradition. It's a powerful act of self-recognition, a moment to reflect on how far you've come, and a way to reinforce your commitment to staying sober. These milestones are more than dates on a calendar - they’re victories over a struggle that once felt impossible to overcom...

The Benefits of Sobriety

When most people think about giving up alcohol, their first thoughts tend to revolve around what they'll be missing out on — social events, celebratory toasts, the ritual of winding down with a drink. But the truth is, sobriety isn’t about loss. It’s about gain.Whether you're taking a break, sober-curious, or fully committed to long-term sobriety, the benefits of living alcohol-free are far-reaching and often life-changing. Here we explore what you truly gain beyond just avoiding hangovers...

Finding Myself Again

This weekend I ran half a half marathon with a friend - I ran the first 10.5kms, she ran the second. A bunch of us from the gym ran various distances, getting up at 5:30am on a Saturday morning and paying $90 for the privilege.One of the many things I've discovered about myself since I got sober is that I absolutely hate running. I didn't train for the race because I find running incredibly boring, but I was pretty happy with my time of 1 hour 9 minutes all the same. I have now decided to retire...

Exciting News!

Yes, I'll be jumping on the podcast bandwagon shortly, launching "The Sober Connection with Abi King" within the next couple of weeks. This has been a long time coming, but my nerves and self-doubt have held me back from just going for it for far too long. But I decided to bite the bullet a few weeks ago, and have spent the last wee while trying to learn all I can about recording podcasts, inviting guests to join me for a chat and getting the background "stuff" sorted....

My Birthday Blog

Today is my 47th birthday, and the 4th one I have celebrated sober. Birthdays look very different these days. Back when I was drinking, I would use the excuse that it was my birthday month to get wasted most days - which was no different to any other months really, it just seemed more acceptable. I wouldn't do anything if it didn't centre around getting wasted, spending time wth my kids even took a back seat. If anyone asked me what I wanted for my birthday I would say gin, red wine, a fancy bot...

What to do When You Slip Up

The journey to sobriety is rarely a straight line. Whether you’ve been sober for days, weeks, months, or even years, setbacks can happen. And when they do, they can be tough. I spent 4 years trying to quit, sometimes staying sober for months before I slipped up, and other times it seemed like every other day was another day 1.If you’ve experienced a relapse, or you're worried about the possibility of one, it’s important to remember that relapse is not a failure—it’s simply a part of th...

Why I made the Decision to Never Drink Again

When I first started looking at my relationship with alcohol, I did what most people do and thought I could moderate. I started putting all these rules into my week - you can only drink on the weekends; you must only drink beer then wine, NEVER spirits (because spirits send you loopy); you can drink during the week but ONLY if it's someone's birthday; you have to make sure you drink water in between your drinks and a big pint of it before you go to bed... the list went on and on... Unsurprisingl...

How to Cope with Triggers

If you’re reading this, chances are you’re exploring your relationship with alcohol, or maybe you’re in the process of making a change. I know first hand how tough it can be to navigate social situations without the crutch of alcohol, and to be honest, I still struggle sometimes. Whether it’s a party, a family gathering, or even a simple get-together with friends, being around alcohol can feel triggering and uncomfortable—especially at first.But you can enjoy these moments without need...

The First Step Toward Sobriety

Deciding to quit alcohol is one of the most significant and transformative decisions a person can make. However, the decision itself is only the beginning of the journey. What truly sets the foundation for lasting sobriety is understanding why you want to quit. Your reasons for choosing sobriety—whether health-related, emotional, or for personal growth—become your personal compass. These reasons help you stay focused, motivated, and resilient when challenges arise.So often, people will chall...

Spot the Difference!

As I celebrate 3 years of sobriety this week, I've been reflecting on the differences that I feel and notice when comparing myself to a few years ago. My life has changed immeasurably since I had my last drink back in March 2022, but it's the physical changes that we don't tend to notice until we look back on old photos. ...

3 years sober!

If you met me 3+ years ago, you wouldn't recognise me at all. Lost and exhausted, overweight and bloated, I was almost defeated. I absolutely hated myself and rarely looked at myself in the mirror. I was ashamed of my parenting, embarrassed by my behaviour and disappointed at how controlled I was by booze. I couldn't understand why I couldn't just quit, why wouldn't it stick? Why did alcohol have such a hold over me?The truth is I had been using it as a coping mechanism for so long that my brain...

Taking it back to where it all began

As a young child, I definitely didn't imagine growing up and having a problem with alcohol!I grew up in the UK as an only child and it is only recently that I have been able to understand why I behaved the way I did as a kid - I wanted to be around people and not be alone. And I just really, REALLY wanted to be liked....

My sober story - how I went from total shame & despair to a life full of excitement for the future

Firstly, I would like to say a huge thank you for visiting my page! I never ever dreamed that I would be here trying to help as many people as possible to change their relationship with alcohol. I never even thought I had a problem myself, until I tried to quit just after my 40th birthday. ...